Teaching Your Child Rules And Boundaries

When we first go to school, the first thing they do is tell you the rules of the classroom. You may also learn more rules later, that pertain to the school. Every school has rules, and it’s usually easy for children to follow, because they already have those that they follow at home. If your child is young, and just starting to learn about rules, there are ways to teach them what is correct behavior what is not. If you’re trying to establish certain rules in your home, you must know which ones are important, and which ones you want implemented. Kids need rules and here are some quick tips to get you started in the right direction.

First Steps

Depending on the age of your child, there are certain rules that you can give them, and insist that they follow. If a child is very young, too many rules might not work for them, as it may be confusing. As a child gets older, more rules can be established, and you can expect them to follow the rules. When you’re just training a child to learn about rules, it’s always best that you practice what you want enforced. For example, if you’re at home, maybe you only want your child to watch one hour of TV per day.

In the case of watching TV, you may set a timer on the TV, and have it turned off, and parent locked, after the one hour has passed. This is a great way to enforce the rule of one hour television, without going around the rules. If the child sees the TV is locked off after one hour of watching their shows, then they should understand it’s time to stop watching TV. If you sit down and talk to your child about it, then it should be no surprise when the one hour time is up. Another example is rules outside of the home.

Outside The House

When you’re inside the home, rules will be different than outside the home. Maybe a child will yell inside the home, but you must let them know that this is not acceptable when they’re in public. If you’ve established the rules of ‘no yelling,’ while in public, they are more likely to follow it. Sitting down and talking with your child about why they shouldn’t yell, while they are outside, may help them to understand why the rule was put in place. Giving a rule is not enough, the child must understand the rule, and why it’s important to follow it.

If you take time to explain to your child, the importance of any rule you’ve implemented, they are more likely to follow the rules, and not be rebellious against them. If you find yourself having a rebellious child when it comes to several rules, you may want to examine the rules that you’ve set. It’s possible that your rules are too strict, unfair, or don’t make much sense to the child. Sit down and talk with your child directly about the rules, and see if the rules can be changed, in order for both parent and child to be happy.